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I'm a filthy mortal... I know... Many people may find it weird, but I've always been connected to and aware of the fact that I'm a mere mortal and I can die any time now... And no, I'm not obsessed or morbid - at least not in my view. But I don't live in a bubble and I don't push the thought away. I have thought about my death many times, mostly in philosophical (understand nihilist) and also pragmatic ways (what happens after). So for instance, I wrote my first Will when I was probably around 10 years old. I remember it mostly concerned with who gets my teddy bears, haha. And down the line as a teen, evaluating the body disposal methods, I decided I must be cremated and my ashes spread in the ocean.... In the past few years, I've looked into things like whole-life insurance and considered my legacy in other ways... But anyhow... In the past few days, two social media posts poked me to consider yet another aspect of my mortality. One was about a 38-year-old woman who had been diagnosed with a rare, deadly cancer. Faced with something so immense and final, she didn’t spiral into endless treatments or denial. She decided to live fully, to embrace what time she had left, and not to spend her days trying not to die. Having a hospital-injury-needles phobia, I think this would have been my strategy too if I was told how much time I've got. The second was a quote from a guest on Stephen Bartlett’s podcast who said something along the lines of, "You matter now, but you likely won't matter in 1000 years.'' And again, the nihilist I am - I totally agree. I've always believed in enjoying your life, living with your own purpose, and living with integrity. But these two reminders stirred something new in me. They forced me to pause and ask myself: If I had one year left to live, what would I want to accomplish? What would I want to leave behind? And you know how when you go into the wilderness you see those signs that say ''Leave no trace.'', well, I want that. I want to leave no trace of my filthy mortal life with its shit ton of C02... as much as this is possible, of course. So, among all the emotional, professional, and personal answers that came rushing forward, one surprisingly practical one kept coming back: I want to leave the planet as if I was never here. I want to carbon-neutralise my existence. Carbon Footprint: The Ghost We Leave Behind It may sound a little odd, I know, for most people, when they think of legacy, they imagine children or books or money or buildings with their names on them. And yes, of course I want some of these legacy pieces - i.e. write a book. But I kept thinking about something more invisible—the carbon footprint I've created simply by existing, working, travelling, and living in the modern world. I travel a lot. I drive a petrol car - my lovely SUV - FRUT. I own things made of plastic. I order takeout, and even if I shop local, there's plastic packaging I can’t always avoid or reusee. I’m not perfect. I can't be. Nobody is. But this isn’t about guilt. It’s not about shame or pretending I live in a tent and wash in a stream. It’s about awareness. And with awareness comes responsibility—not the heavy, burdened kind, but the kind that says, I see this, and I choose to do something about it.  Becoming carbon neutral, or as close as I can realistically get, feels like a way to honour my place on this planet, and live with integrity. The Numbers That Brought It Home As I started researching what it would actually take to offset my carbon footprint, I found some sobering numbers. The average Westerner produces between 10 and 16 tonnes of CO₂ per year . That’s tonnes, not kilograms. And the average tree? It absorbs about 10 kilograms (or 22 pounds)  of carbon dioxide per year for the first 20 years of its life. A mature tree, depending on species and climate, can absorb up to 40 kg per year . So I started doing the math. If I assume I’m somewhere in the lower to middle range of that 10–16 tonnes (and I’ll explain why in a moment), I would need to plant a minimum of 500 trees  just to begin  offsetting my yearly emissions. And that’s not even counting past years or future growth. Just the present, and just one year. It was a humbling moment, but also an empowering one—because now I had a number. Something tangible. Something I could work toward. Why I Believe My Impact Is (Slightly) Lower Now, I don’t think I’m on the high end of the spectrum. I try to live a fairly minimalist life. I don’t buy a lot of things. I don’t upgrade my phone every year or get sucked into every trend. I hate  clothes shopping and can't say I've participated in the fast fashion culture. In fact, I’m actively transitioning my wardrobe to natural fabrics. And then there’s the big one: I won’t be having children. I don’t talk about this much, but it’s worth saying here—choosing not to have children is one of the most impactful eco-friendly decisions a person can make in terms of long-term emissions and resource use. It’s not why  I made that choice, but it is a powerful side effect. That said, I do travel a lot. And I probably always will. Travel fills my soul, teaches me perspective, and connects me to people and cultures in ways nothing else can. So I’m not pretending to be emissions-free. But I am doing what I can, where I can, to lessen the harm and increase the good. Yes, I’ll Pay. But I’ll Also Plant. I am sceptical and distrustful of all sorts of charities and charitable programs. I see most of them as scams that pay management handsomely, while recruiting volunteers and doing less than the bare minimum for their said cause, while maybe engaging in some money laundering too. Soooo, of course, I am sceptical about carbon offset programs too. Nonetheless, I can't physically dedicate the time, energy or finances to plant the 500+ trees that I should to offset my carbon footprint. So, I will  donate to tree planting initiatives that seem to have good reputations and transparent operations. I plan to make it a habit—a quiet, ongoing commitment to help restore some balance. Maybe it'll be buying/donating for more trees to be planted every year on my birthday. That said, I also want to get my hands dirty. I belive in being actively involved in doing the good work yourself. As a former workaholic and forever self-reliant person, I say - if you want something done (well) do it yourself. Planting trees myself is my only way to know with a 100% guarantee that I have done something to offset my carbon footprint. So, yes, I want to plant some of the trees myself. I want to dig into the earth, feel the roots, and know exactly where that tree is growing. Not as a performance, but as a grounding experience—a way to really feel  and see the contribution I’m making. There’s something deeply satisfying in that simplicity: you plant a tree, you leave it behind, and it grows and you can go visit it. What My Carbon-Neutral Plan Looks Like I’m not about to hop on planes just to chase planting projects around the world. That would defeat the purpose. But if I’m already going to Europe, more specifically back to Bulgaria where my roots are from, I’ll take the opportunity to connect with groups that organize tree planting efforts there and get involved. I'd also like to do this here in Aotearoa New Zealand, which I hope will become my forever home. I want to find ways to contribute locally, too. I want to know that some of the trees I helped bring to life are thriving right here, in the place that may hold my future. Additionally, one day, when I have my own house, I will plant the trees I want in my yard too. I already have a list - with mulberries (my favourite fruit) being at the top. I imagine this being a quiet rhythm in my life—a few trees bought and donated here, a few planted by hand there. Goodness Is Contagious—I’ve Seen It One of the other reasons this felt important to share is because I know that doing good things can be contagious. I’ve seen it happen with my own eyes. When someone shares something heartfelt they’ve done—not in a smug, saviour-y way, but just as a normal part of their life—other people start to think about what they could do, too. When you begin doing something good, people will stare at first, but soon they join you and become part of it. I’m not here to convert anyone. But I do believe in the ripple effect. If I go and plant trees, maybe a friend will want to join. Or maybe someone will just reflect on their own footprint and take a step that feels right for them. That’s enough. That’s powerful. Carbon Neutrality Is Just the Beginning This whole process has made me realise something else: becoming carbon neutral is just one thread in a much larger fabric of how I want to live. I’ve been slowly shifting my wardrobe away from plastic-based clothing. I hate shopping, so it’s a long journey, but I’m committed to wearing more natural fabrics—cotton, wool, linen. Things that breathe with me and don’t harm the planet long after I’m gone. And I’m also dreaming up a home—my own house one day. I’m working with my inner architect (and one day a real one) to design something that isn’t just pretty, but smart. A home that uses ancient wisdom about airflow and heat. A place that collects rainwater, filters it, uses solar energy, and invites the outside in. Not some off-grid fantasy, but a thoughtfully designed space that supports my health and honours the earth. These things matter to me. Not as a checklist of virtue, but as a way to live in better relationship with the world around me. Did You Know: Sequoias Might Be the Coolest Carbon Heroes of All Time So while I was nerding out on trees and carbon offsetting (as you do), I came across some jaw-dropping facts about one of my favourite trees on Earth — the giant sequoia. You know, those majestic redwoods that feel like ancient guardians of the forest? Turns out, they’re not just beautiful… they’re absolute carbon-sequestering powerhouses . Here are some amazing things I learned that made me fall in love with them even more: 🌲 Carbon Absorption Grows With Age Young sequoias  absorb carbon, but like moody teenagers, they’re just warming up. As they grow older, taller, and wider, their CO₂ capturing capacity skyrockets . The bigger they get, the more carbon they suck from the atmosphere — and they just don’t stop. 🌍 The General Sherman Tree Is a Climate Superhero This single, legendary giant has sequestered over 1,400 metric tons  of carbon dioxide in its lifetime. That’s enough to offset nearly three entire human lifetimes  of carbon emissions. From just one tree . Let that sink in. (Reminder, we are over 8 billion people on this planet) 🌲 A 100-Year-Old Sequoia Can Absorb Over 3 Tonnes of CO₂ per Year That’s per year . Not in its lifetime. And the older and bigger it gets, the more  it pulls from the atmosphere. These trees literally get better at saving the planet as they age. (Can humans do that, too?) 🌿 Why They’re So Effective They’re massive  — the largest trees on Earth by volume . They live forever  (okay, maybe not forever, but 2,500+ years is basically mythical). They store carbon in their huge, dense bodies  and in the ecosystems they support, making them one of the most powerful long-term carbon sinks we know of. 🧠 Key Takeaway Their superpower isn’t just their beauty or longevity — it’s their massive, quiet ability to clean the air for centuries at a time . So next time you hug a tree (you know you want to), make it a sequoia if you can. What Peace Feels Like (To Me) At the heart of it, this isn’t about being a hero. It’s about peace. The peace that comes from knowing I’m living in alignment with my values, even if the actions are small. Every tree, every shirt, every conversation about rainwater tanks and bamboo floors—it all adds up to a life I can be proud of. Not perfect. But real. If You’re Reading This… Maybe you’ve had a moment like mine—a social media post, a passing comment, a health scare that cracked you open and made you re-evaluate everything. If so, I want to say this: don’t ignore it. Let it be a beginning. Your version of legacy might be different from mine. Maybe it’s about art or animals or family or protest or healing. But whatever it is, find a way to start walking toward it. Even if it’s just one tree at a time. Dare to live with integrity.

I’ve always been fascinated by breath. From a young age, I remember watching runners pass by and wondering—are they breathing right for what they’re doing? I’d hear one person gasping, another breathing rhythmically, and it struck me that maybe not all breaths are created equal. Just like how we each move differently, I figured there must be more optimal ways to breathe depending on how we move. That curiosity stuck with me. Later when I've had to run myself, for school sports, or when I've gone to the gym and done yoga, I always felt like (and still do) I'm doing it wrong. That I'm not breathing in and out at the most optimal times or ways. In the past few years—especially since diving deeper into Wim Hof’s work—I’ve been thinking even more and more about the incredible power of breath. In either 2020 or 2021 I even read the book Breath  by James Nestor , and it completely changed the way I saw something as seemingly simple as breathing. It explained why mouth breathing can be harmful, how our airways have evolved (or devolved), and what that means for our health. Then, days ago, I stumbled on a quirky British game show called QI where one of the questions was about losing weight and how we 'expel fat' - the answer - through exhaling. It blew me away - pun totally intended. We actually exhale fat? Wait, what?! That was news to me—and fascinating enough to send me down a rabbit hole of research. I’d heard of breathwork being used for anxiety, pain relief, even childbirth. But for weight loss? That was new. So in this article, I want to share some of the incredible things I’ve discovered about breath—from how it can support weight loss, to how it can ease pain, reduce anxiety, and even help us feel and be more youthful and vibrant. Because breath isn't just life—it might just be the key  to living better. [Clip taken from QI Series 'Meals',] About Breathwork and Breathing Breathwork can be surprisingly powerful in so many areas. For example, controlled breathing techniques can help manage stress and anxiety by engaging the parasympathetic nervous system, which promotes relaxation. Techniques like diaphragmatic breathing, box breathing, and alternate nostril breathing are often used in mindfulness and meditation practices. In terms of pain management, slow, deep breathing can help reduce the perception of pain and increase pain tolerance. It's often used in labor, as you mentioned, and in managing chronic pain conditions. For immune support and inflammation, methods like the Wim Hof technique combine specific breathing patterns with cold exposure and meditation, which some studies suggest can influence the immune system and reduce inflammation. Breathwork can also be used to enhance focus and cognitive function. Certain patterns of breathing can increase oxygen flow to the brain, helping with mental clarity and concentration. And yes, there's emerging research suggesting that breathing can play a role in metabolic processes, potentially aiding in weight management. While it’s not a standalone solution for weight loss, mindful breathing can support a healthier lifestyle by reducing stress, improving sleep, and enhancing overall well-being. It’s fascinating how something as simple as our breath can have such a wide-ranging impact on our physical and mental health. Mastering Your Breath If you want to master your breath, starting with foundational techniques is key. Practices like diaphragmatic breathing, also known as belly breathing, help you engage your diaphragm fully and improve oxygen exchange. This can be a solid starting point because it’s fundamental for many other breathing techniques. From there, you can explore different methods tailored to your needs. For example, if you’re looking to improve focus or manage stress, techniques like box breathing (inhaling, holding, exhaling, and holding each for an equal count) can be very effective. For sleep, slow, extended exhalations can help activate your relaxation response. Something as simple as inhaling for four counts and exhaling for six or eight counts can calm your nervous system before bed. For exercise, learning how to synchronize your breathing with movement can boost your endurance and efficiency. For example, runners often use rhythmic breathing patterns to maintain a steady flow of oxygen and prevent side stitches. If you want to dive deeper, exploring practices like pranayama in yoga can offer a wide range of breathing exercises tailored to different outcomes, from energizing your body to calming your mind. And if you’re curious about more modern approaches, there are numerous guided breathwork sessions and apps that can help you practice and refine your technique. The key is consistency and mindfulness—paying attention to how different techniques affect your body and mind. Once you build that awareness, you can tailor your breathwork to suit your needs in any situation. Apps To Help Your Journey There are several great apps that can guide you through different breathing techniques. For example, the Wim Hof Method app teaches his specific breathing exercises combined with cold exposure. Another popular one is Breathwork, which offers a variety of guided exercises for relaxation, focus, energy, and sleep. Apps like Calm and Headspace also include breathing exercises alongside their meditation content. They can be great for building a regular practice and exploring different techniques. If you’re looking for something comprehensive, Pranayama* apps focus specifically on breath control techniques from yoga, offering structured programs to develop your practice. Ultimately, no single app will make you a master overnight, but consistent use of these tools can help you build a strong foundation and deepen your understanding of how different techniques impact your body and mind. Wait! What's Pranayama?!? Pranayama is a set of breathing techniques originating from the yoga tradition. The word itself comes from Sanskrit, where "prana" means life force or vital energy, and "ayama" means control or extension. Essentially, pranayama involves controlling the breath to influence the flow of energy in the body. Different pranayama techniques can have various effects, such as calming the mind, energizing the body, improving focus, or balancing the nervous system. Some common pranayama practices include Nadi Shodhana (alternate nostril breathing), which is known for balancing the left and right hemispheres of the brain and promoting relaxation. Another is Kapalabhati (skull shining breath), which involves short, powerful exhales and can be invigorating and cleansing. Incorporating pranayama into your routine can enhance your overall well-being by helping you regulate your breath and, in turn, influence your mental and physical state. Breathe in....for... 1. Breath for Anxiety Relief Breathing deeply and mindfully helps activate the parasympathetic nervous system—your body’s “rest and digest” mode—which calms the heart rate, reduces cortisol, and brings your mind into the present. Recommended method:   Box Breathing  (also called square breathing) — Inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 4, exhale for 4, and hold again for 4. Repeat for a few minutes. It’s used by Navy SEALs and works beautifully to ground you quickly.Other good techniques: Diaphragmatic breathing  and 4-7-8 breathing  for deeper relaxation before sleep or during anxious moments. 2. Breath for Pain Relief Pain often tenses the body and shortens the breath. By consciously lengthening your breathing, you can help reduce the intensity of pain and feel more in control. Recommended method:   Deep diaphragmatic breathing  — Breathe deeply into the belly, expanding it fully, then exhale slowly. This reduces tension in the body and enhances the release of endorphins (natural painkillers).Also useful: Hypnobirthing-style breathing  (long inhales, slow sighing exhales) and mindful breath awareness  during pain flares. 3. Breath for Weight Loss (Yes, Really!) We exhale fat as carbon dioxide when we lose weight. The majority of fat leaves the body via the lungs, not just sweat or waste. So efficient breathing supports metabolic processes and fat oxidation. Recommended method:   Wim Hof Method  or fire breathing (Kapalabhati)  — These activate your metabolism, improve oxygenation, and help burn calories. Bonus: Consistent slow nasal breathing  during low-intensity cardio improves fat burn and endurance. 4. Breath for Better Sleep Your breath can help calm the nervous system and prep your body for rest. Many people sleep poorly due to shallow breathing or overactive stress responses. Recommended method:   4-7-8 breathing  — Inhale for 4, hold for 7, exhale for 8. This slows the heart rate and promotes deep relaxation.Also try: Coherent breathing  (5-6 breaths per minute) to lull the body into a restful state. 5. Breath for Energy and Focus Feeling sluggish? Breath can wake you up and sharpen your mind better than coffee. Recommended method:   Bellows breath (Bhastrika)  — Powerful, quick inhales and exhales through the nose (about 1 per second) for 30-60 seconds.For a milder version: Breath of Fire  (used in Kundalini yoga) to energize the body and brain. 6. Breath for Detoxification Breathing deeply helps the body expel toxins and enhances circulation. Since the lungs are a major detox organ, breathwork helps flush out stale air and CO₂. Recommended method:   Full yogic breath  — Inhale into the belly, ribs, and chest; exhale completely. Do this slowly and mindfully for several minutes.Also effective: Wim Hof Method , which includes breath holds and powerful exhales. 7. Breath for Emotional Release and Trauma Processing Trauma is often stored in the body and shows up in shallow or held breath. Breathwork can unlock trapped emotions and support emotional release. Recommended method:   Conscious Connected Breathing (also called circular breath)  — A continuous, gentle inhale and exhale with no pause. Often used in breathwork therapy sessions to process stuck emotional energy.Note: This is best done with a trained facilitator if you’re new to it. 8. Breath for Longevity and Youthfulness Chronic stress and shallow breathing can age us faster. Optimizing your breath promotes cell regeneration, better oxygen delivery, and a more youthful glow. Recommended method:   Coherent breathing  and slow nasal breathing  — Practicing 5–6 breaths per minute daily has been linked to improved heart rate variability, longevity, and reduced inflammation.Mouth taping during sleep (with caution!) can also promote better nasal breathing and oxygenation overnight. 9. Breath for Athletic Performance Better breath equals better endurance, faster recovery, and more efficient energy use during workouts. Recommended method:   Nasal breathing during training  — It enhances nitric oxide production, keeps heart rate lower, and improves CO₂ tolerance.Also try: Buteyko breathing  — Focused on reducing overbreathing and building tolerance to carbon dioxide to improve athletic output. 10. Breath for Meditation and Mental Clarity Your breath is a built-in anchor to the present moment. When the mind races, breathing practices can help return you to stillness. Recommended method:   Mindful breath awareness  — Simply observe the breath without changing it. Use a mental cue like “in… out…” to maintain focus. Also effective: Alternate nostril breathing (Nadi Shodhana)  for balance and clarity.

I’ve known this for years, yet only recently started diving into the fascinating world of sound healing, and let me tell you — it’s a journey that’s as intriguing as it is soothing. If you’re like me, you’ve probably heard of things like singing bowls, gongs, and tuning forks but haven’t really thought much about how they work or what they can do for your health. So, I decided to dig deeper, and what I found blew my mind. Let’s talk about the science, the benefits, and why this ancient practice is making such a big comeback. What Is Sound Healing Anyway? At its core, sound healing is exactly what it sounds like (pun intended): using sound and vibrations to promote physical, mental, and emotional well-being. It’s based on the idea that everything in the universe vibrates at its own frequency, including our bodies. When those frequencies get out of sync — thanks to stress, illness, or emotional turmoil — sound can help bring them back into balance. Practices like this aren’t new. Cultures around the world have been using sound as medicine for centuries. Think Tibetan singing bowls, ancient chants, or Indigenous drumming ceremonies. What’s new is how modern science is catching up to these traditions and showing us just how powerful sound can be. The Science Behind the Magic Sound healing works because of two key principles: resonance  and entrainment . Resonance  is the idea that when two objects vibrate at the same frequency, they amplify each other. Our cells and organs have natural frequencies, and when we’re exposed to harmonious sounds, it’s like giving our bodies a tuning fork to reset to their ideal state. Entrainment  is what happens when your brainwaves sync up with an external rhythm. For example, certain frequencies can guide your brain into a more relaxed state, like alpha waves (which are linked to calm focus) or theta waves (the dreamy, meditative state). Scientists have even pinpointed specific frequencies with unique effects. For instance, 174 Hz is great for pain relief, while 528 Hz is known as the “love frequency” and is believed to promote DNA repair. How cool is that? So, How Does This Feel in Real Life? This is where things get personal because sound healing isn’t just about listening to pretty tones. It’s about feeling the vibrations, too. If you’ve ever been to a live sound bath or even stood near a really loud speaker, you know that sound is something you can physically feel. That’s the magic of vibration: it moves through you, not just around you. In a live session, practitioners might use instruments like: Singing Bowls:  These can be metal or crystal, and their tones are deeply resonant. You might even feel the vibrations in your body, especially if the bowl is placed near you. Gongs:  These create powerful, immersive soundscapes that seem to wrap around you entirely. Tuning Forks:  These are super precise and often used to target specific areas of the body. One thing I’ve learned is that listening to a recording of these instruments is nice, but it’s nothing compared to experiencing the vibrations in person. When you’re there live, your body is literally absorbing the energy of the sound. That’s something a pair of headphones just can’t replicate. Let’s Talk About Cats (Yes, Really!) Okay, this part might sound a bit random, but stick with me. Ever since I was a kid my dad has told me that purring is healing, and I rightfully trusted him on it, because it is true. Cats we've had through the years would go and lay on top of ''where it hurt'' and this was their way of showing up and supporting us. So, did you know that cats’ purring is thought to have healing properties? Cats purr in a frequency range of 25 to 150 Hz, which happens to overlap with frequencies known to promote healing in humans. Studies have suggested that these vibrations can: Help heal bones and tissues. Reduce pain and inflammation. Lower stress and anxiety. I mean, how wild is that? Next time your cat curls up and starts purring on your lap, think of it as a mini sound and vibration therapy session. Who knew our furry friends were natural healers? What Are the Health Benefits? Sound healing is said to help with a range of issues, including: Stress Relief:  The calming tones and vibrations can lower cortisol levels, helping you feel more relaxed. Pain Management:  Frequencies like 174 Hz are thought to help reduce physical pain. Better Sleep:  Sound can guide your brainwaves into a state conducive to restful sleep. Emotional Release:  Many people report feeling a deep emotional release during or after a session, as if the vibrations helped clear out stuck energy. Enhanced Focus and Creativity:  Certain frequencies can boost mental clarity and spark inspiration. Should You Try It? Absolutely. Whether you’re dealing with stress, chronic pain, or just want to explore a new way to feel good, sound healing is worth a shot. You don’t need to be a spiritual guru to benefit from it, either. You just need an open mind and a willingness to relax and let the sound do its thing. Here’s how you can start: Find a Local Session:  Look for sound baths, gong meditations, or singing bowl events in your area. Try a Recording:  If live sessions aren’t accessible, search for high-quality recordings of singing bowls or binaural beats online. Just make sure you’ve got good headphones to pick up all the frequencies. Experiment at Home:  If you’re curious, you can even buy your own singing bowl or tuning forks to play with. (Trust me, it’s super satisfying to make those sounds yourself.) Final Thoughts The more I learn about sound healing, the more I’m convinced it’s something we should all explore. It’s one of those rare practices that’s both deeply relaxing and scientifically backed. Plus, it’s just plain fascinating to think that something as simple as sound can have such a profound impact on our bodies and minds. Whether you’re chasing better sleep, emotional healing, or just a new way to de-stress, sound healing might just be the missing piece you didn’t know you needed. And if you have a purring cat? Well, consider yourself extra lucky — you’ve already got a built-in sound healer right at home.

Today was not even supposed to go as it did, because, despite Latoya and I discussing a trip for today, we decided not to go ahead with her initial idea, because I had to move location to another AirBnB and I also wanted to buy my (first) car before the long weekend and His Majesty's all important birthday this Bank Holiday Monday. So, I woke up, realising I'm (almost) behind on a deadline for something work-related and scrambling to bank on the fact that for the world on the other side of the planet, it is still 31st May I grabbed my laptop and started ''catching up''. Ping. Latoya's message shows up with a picture of a grand-looking view and says she's caught up on some sleep and if I still wanted to, we can go for a drive and coffee not far out and then she could drop me at the dealership before they close. After rushing around to finish this work thing, packing and showering I caught myself overwhelmed and rushed as Latoya's message said she's on her way to me. My Type A personality traits, my unbelievable discomfort with people having to wait for me, along with workaholism residue just crushed me and thank goodness for Latoya's kindness and patience, she made a great suggestion which I jumped on and things worked out. But boy, didn't I have to face myself and slow-the-fuck-down, because once more I was so focused on everything happening and working on a tight schedule that I tied myself in knots with the stress... And only my osteopaths know what levels of insane stress I can store in my body. So, I packed, got ready, and we went off. And as soon as we were in the car, I felt like I needed to drop the drive to do it all in some insane time-frames. So, I called the dealership, I told them I would try to come today, but it may have to wait until Tuesday and that I'm serious about buying the car and would love for them to keep it for me - and they said, ''No worries, we'll keep it for you.'' and my brain finally relaxed and I was able to truly enjoy my time with Latoya and the views we had. I will keep saying it, but I do feel New Zealand is already soooo healing for me, it's insane. So, anyhow! Here are some pictures from today.

Last week I stumbled upon an article about this month's Geminid Meteor Shower. If you know me at all, you know I'm legit from Pluto and miss the shit out of free space travel haha. So any time I can get in a Planetarium or see some awesome stuff in the sky - I try and go. Anyhow, according to the Internet, ' 'The Geminids are a prolific meteor shower caused by the object 3200 Phaethon, which is thought to be a Palladian asteroid with a "rock comet" orbit. This would make the Geminids, together with the Quadrantids, the only major meteor showers not originating from a comet.'' And the best display comes on Wednesday 13th and Thursday 14th December with no Moon in the sky to disturb the observations. Sadly England is a very cloudy country, with a typical forecast for the winter season called ''overcast'' - for those fortunate to not know what this is - it's when the blue sky is absolutely invisible to you because there's a thick layer of gray, sad clouds that hang above you. Using a decent weather website, like https://www.ventusky.com/ , to show us the cloud coverage was vital in finding our way out of Oxford - driving about 35-40minutes west to find a nice spot where we could see the night sky. We ended up stopping in the middle of nowhere with me planting my insta360 in the field and setting it to Starlapse. I honestly had no idea what to expect, this was my fist shooting of this type. About 10-20mins later and 10 shots made in that time span - I ended up with the following result: I will definitely be experimenting more with this feature and cannot wait to become better at using the camera itself. I am just beginning to realise the endless and amazing possibilities with it. So stay tuned, let me know if you have any cool ideas for how I use it and what you'd like to see me experiment with in terms of videos and special shots using it.

My fellow chilly adventurers in this one, we're taking a step back from the exhilaration of cold showers to consider a less talked about perspective – the downsides of cold therapy. Yes, you read it right; every coin has two sides. So, here it is - a bit of a plot twist - the not-so-cool side of cold showers. 1. Dress Code? More like 'Guess Code' Now, here's a cool thing about being on the cold side - you'll start feeling much warmer, much more often, and without needing a mountain of warm clothes. So, when you see people bundled up like they're on an Arctic expedition, you might think, "Brr, better layer up!" Only to end up carrying a pile of unnecessary clothes five minutes later. It's like a tricky game, trying to figure out how to dress. As I write this, I wonder - did Wim Hof go through this same experience - did he switch to ''forever shorts'' and ''free the nipple'' because he gave up or maybe had the ability to disregard the weather whatever it is? 2. Brace Yourself for the Big Chill Question Get ready to be the go-to 'Cold Shower Guru'. You'll be hit with the ever-recurring question, "Aren't you cold?", by just about everyone - the random bloke on the street, your taxi driver, folks waiting at the bus stop. It's like being stuck on repeat, explaining the magic of cold showers over and over again. 3. Sweating in Your Sweater Here's a plot twist for you again. After more than 250 cold showers in 2022, I was all set for those cozy Netflix winter evenings - hot chocolate, fluffy blankets, warm sweaters. Guess what though? I found myself sweating like in a sauna just a few minutes into my favourite show. Not exactly the cozy night in I had imagined. So, this one cozy winter stuff is out the window too... 4. Sweater Shopping? Nah, I'm Good... Since you'll be feeling toasty most of the time, you'll have to keep reminding yourself that you really don't need that extra cute sweater you saw in the store. I know, it's a bummer. But look at it this way - it's one less thing to clutter your wardrobe, and more money saved! 5. Thanks, But I'm Not Cold. Okay, so here's another thing. Even your family and friends, who know about your cold shower craze, will keep offering you extra clothes, blankets, and the likes. At least mine do... despite all the cold-therapy-education I've given them. Yes, it gets annoying, but they're just worried about you turning into an icicle. It's likely going to be a hard sell to convince them you're not freezing your toes off. The Heat is On...Or is It? Almost nobody ever asks this, "How do you feel when it's hot?" Well, simple. Cold therapy boosts the brown fat production in your body, which helps you feel warmer in colder weather. But when it's hot, it's just like it used to be - no changes there. Dive Deeper into the Frosty Journey Well, that's the chilly truth about the other side of cold showers. Remember, every adventure has its ups and downs. Feel like learning more about my icy escapades with the Wim Hof method? Just hop on over to the other articles under the 'Wim Hof - Cold Showers' category. Got your own cold shower tales to share? Questions? Tips? Fire away in the comments below, let's keep this conversation flowing!

I have learned that organising a trip with the majority of people - be it friends or family - is tougher than pulling wisdom teeth out. So it was years ago that I finally hacked how to get travelling without waiting for anyone, but still have friends join me. The hack is more than simple. It really doesn't take much to convince friends to join you on a trip. Here's how I do it. I would plan my journey ( which I've spoken about in another blog ) and announce it to my friends. I'd literally say: Hey, I'm going to this place on...these dates, feel invited to join me! And believe it or not, once you've removed the decision-making from people's plates, and you already have a plan even if it is as vague as all of mine, people get itchy to explore and the fear of missing out kicks in. Consider this: all the essential elements are already established— the destination, the dates, and the thrilling adventure. Whether or not they choose to participate, the journey will unfold. They can either watch from the sidelines, read about my experiences, and feel a tinge of envy, or they can take the leap and become an integral part of the adventure. I can confidently attest that this technique has proven to be remarkably successful for me, enticing numerous individuals to join me on my explorations and travel escapades. By employing this strategy, not only do you relieve your friends of the burden of decision-making, but you also create a sense of urgency and excitement around your travel plans. It taps into their innate desire to experience new places, cultures, and adventures, making it difficult for them to resist the allure of embarking on a journey with you. This technique has definitely worked well for me and I've had folks join me in exploring places and travelling. Embrace the power of decision-making, kindle their sense of wanderlust, and watch as your friends eagerly flock to be part of the remarkable experiences that await. Remember, sharing the joy of exploration with friends can be tough if they don't match your travel style, but if they do - it'll be amazing!

🤔 Let's be wise & virtuous to Santiago de Compostela!

Blisters, Notebook and Boundaries Yesterday I peeled off the Compeed plaster after soaking my foot in the bath for a while, thankfully I didn't butcher myself by doing so. But once I saw the skin under and the red spot and felt the pain spreading I realised it was inflamed. And that I'd need to apply antibiotics if I didn't want a full-blown infection. So I hopped to the pharmacy and spent €20 on antiseptic, antibiotic, gauze and more plasters. Joy! [Update: it worked - and I share with you about the magic medication in another article] And knowing that I'd most likely have to spend another night here, I decided to crack on with some real studying and more than reflections, so I got myself a tiny notebook, signed up for a mini online course on Boundaries and spent the rest of the day going through it and making notes and writing processes and tips for myself. Nerd. I know. Today my foot feels better, I even had a brief walk, still stepping funny though. And I noticed some things in Vigo that I'd share in another Journal entry.

A stressful start 24h after getting back from Bulgaria and landing at Gatwick, I was heading back to the airport. I had 24h to sleep, do laundry, repack and reorganise for my trip to Norway. I was exhausted. But at least the flight with Norwegian Air was pleasant and well organised, unlike the hell experienced with Wizz hours prior. I met an interesting Scotsman on the plane and spent the time in nice conversations. Once landed in Oslo, me and Juli hopped on a bus to get to the depot where we were to collect our van for the week. The weather, the vibe, the views amazing…until we ended up at the depot and had to wait 4h to get our vehicle. Trouble after trouble. First it wasn't cleaned yet, then it wasn't starting and we had to change the battery and oh-god-let's-go-already.... False advertisement - the lies and the legality of it all I must admit, I was a massive pain in the ass with the company after all the troubles they caused - including the fact that they falsely advertised and gave us a much smaller van than I have paid for. It turned out they didn't even have the van they advertised on their site. And I managed to get part of my money back because I hate being lied to and charged for it... For those who need to know it: it is actually a legal offence to falsely advertise - sell and charge for something different than what you give to people in the end. If you are ever in that kind of position - you're in your right to seek compensation and even take the company to court. Anyhow! The peaceful and beautiful first night - Trying out Van Life Finally, we did leave absolutely starving, we hit the shops, and after having a sandwich 🥪 each, we drove to Viken where we parked at the lake and will sleep over. Trying out Van Life in Norway was actually such a great idea, I cannot believe my luck for being able to do this expensive journey, celebrating my 30th in a new and exciting way with the most important man in my life. Tomorrow, we'll explore Lillehammer, just on the other side of the bridge. I hope I can finally catch up on sleep, I feel like I might be getting ill and need to ensure I don't… Night, night 🌃

Hello fellow wanderers and well-being enthusiasts, it's another day for a unique tale on the 'Bearwithmeow' blog. Buckle up as we journey through my peculiar adventure with cold showers and the icy grip of the Wim Hof method. Discovering The Ice Man - Wim Hof & Cold Showers and Cold Therapy Back in the winter of 2018, I stumbled upon the world of Wim Hof - the famed Ice Man. If I remember right I watched the video in which he got immersed into a tank of cold icy water and managed to retain his body temperature when a ''normal human'' would have gone into hypothermia long ago. I remember seeing it and thinking - Damn, I wish I didn't hate the cold and could do this too! So, his intriguing story caught my attention and I found myself immersed in the myriad of videos about his intriguing techniques. This was how I first decided to try the concept of cold-therapy and cold showers. However, my start wasn't the smoothest - a bout of the flu pulled me out of the cold-therapy experiment, and it took me some time to get back into the groove. The Stumble and Restart Over the next couple of years, my journey with cold showers was a series of start-stop moments. But in August 2021, I read the book, "The Way of the Iceman: How the Wim Hof Method Creates Radiant Long-term Health—Using the Science and Secrets of Breath Control, Cold-Training and Commitment." This literary deep-dive into the science behind cold showers reignited my interest, and I made a commitment to incorporate this ritual into my lifestyle. Tracking My Progress with Loop I'm all about making the best use of technology, so I employed the help of the 'Loop' app to track my daily cold shower habits. This trusty app became my pillar of accountability, helping me keep track of every cold(er) shower I had. A Bumpy Road to Routine Much like any new routine, establishing a consistent cold shower habit was challenging. There were periods (quite literally, in fact) where I had to skip a day or two for the sake of comfort and sometimes for the sake of laziness haha. Then came the Great Shower Gap of November 2021. The reasons remain a mystery, because I truly can't remember what happened to stop me for a few weeks, but this resulted in a firm reset at the beginning of 2022. My Cold Shower Milestones In my pursuit of embracing the chill, I've racked up some cool achievements over the years. It started modestly in 2021, where from August 30th to December 31st, I braved a total of 67 cold showers. The following year, my commitment deepened, and I immersed myself in an impressive total of 322 icy showers throughout 2022. Fast forward to 2023, and my journey continues strong - I've already taken 138 cold showers so far. Each cold experience not only fortifies my commitment to this lifestyle but also serves as a testament to the enduring power of the Wim Hof method. The Cold Shower Epiphany Six weeks into 2022, I found myself shedding layers and basking in the English chill of 8 degrees Celsius. Walking down Oxford streets in a tank top, I truly grasped the power of cold therapy. The physical benefits were evident as I began feeling warmer and embracing the cold with newfound ease. I remember taking a selfie of myself carrying my scarf, sweater and jacket, grinning proudly in my tank top, then taking a screenshot of the 8-degree celsius Oxford weather and sending it to my friend Nick - bragging about my achievement. Strangers, Scarves, and Stories Walking around 'scantly clad', I often catch the attention of onlookers. Bus drivers, clerks, and pedestrians would frequently pose the quintessential question - " Aren't you cold? " And so, I find myself becoming an accidental ambassador of the Wim Hof method. It is not uncommon to see me passionately explaining cold therapy, brown fat, and my recommendations for starting this exhilarating journey. Embracing the Chill, Inspiring Others My journey has been far from straightforward. There are days when the prospect of a cold shower during my period is less than inviting. And I must say, over those 3 days a month when my body feels like at war with itself, I don't push myself to have a cold shower. Nor do I guilt trip myself when I have a flu - as from what I know, that's not the best moment for cold showers either. But the regret of not doing it on a good day outweighs the momentary emotional discomfort. When I push through, the benefits - feeling revitalised, de-stressed, and warm from within - make it all worthwhile. The longer I stay in the cold, the more warm I feel the rest of the day. I know it makes no sense - but it is true and if you dive into learning about this, you'll understand it better. So, I must say, when I was a teen, there was a TV series called ''Ghost whisperer'' with Jennifer Love Hewit and I honestly remember wishing I lived somewhere warm enough all year round so I can wear the type of cool dresses she does in the series. And thanks to Wim Hof I can report that I get to wear my light, silky dresses at a cool 13 or 14 degrees Celsius in March or April in Oxford! Spreading the Word about Cold Showers & Wim Hof When I travel, I notice that in my home country, Bulgaria, my indifference to the cold incites even more surprise. Often, I toy with the idea of handing out brochures explaining my unusual habits to those who ask me the ''Aren't you cold?'' question. But, the curiosity and interest in people's eyes remind me - they want to hear the story, they want to ask me questions - not read about it off a ''cold'' brochure. A Cold Shower Journey Shared This fascinating journey from my first hesitant step into a cold shower to where I am now, comfortably chilling at 14 degrees, was a learning experience like no other. I've learned to let go, to embrace the cold, and have discovered an incredible method to take control of my body in a natural and empowering way. Knowing Your Limits: It's Okay to Take It Slow While my journey with cold showers has been transformative, I am well aware of my own limits. For instance, I'm not too keen on cold baths. I have immense respect for those who take the plunge into ice-cold tanks and baths - that's a level of resilience that goes beyond my own (at present). Perhaps one day, with further Wim Hof method training, I might reach this icy milestone, but for now, it's not an aspiration I'm actively striving for. And that's perfectly okay. Remember, everyone's journey is unique and it's important to know and respect your own limits. This isn't a competition, it's a personal journey of growth and understanding. You don't have to plunge headfirst into the coldest of waters - start where you're comfortable and embrace the cold at your own pace. Joining The Cold Shower Bandwagon Interested in learning more about my journey with the Wim Hof method? Head over to the 'Wim Hof - Cold Showers' category for all my thoughts, experiences, and tips on the subject. Remember, like any new journey, it might be a bumpy ride at first. But once you push through, the benefits are well worth the initial discomfort. Cold Shower Chronicles: Let's Chat! To all you courageous readers ready to dive into this chilly experience, I welcome your stories, experiences, and questions in the comments below. Let's use this space to exchange ideas, offer tips, and delve deeper into the world of cold showers and the Wim Hof method. Remember, every journey begins with a single step, or in our case, a single splash!